You just have to ask.

“When she first started coming in, before they met, we had a little game. She would try anything we served. She was adventurous. Fearless. When she'd gone through the menu, I would challenge the chefs to come up with something new. It became… she became, my favorite part of the week. Then one night, she came in with him. She felt like this was a safe place for a first date. That ring on her finger… The night he proposed to her, I placed it in the creme brulé for her to find. I watched her say yes from the kitchen window… And they never stopped coming in. But now he orders for her, same thing every time. For 15 years, I've watched their conversations grow shorter and shorter… Until now, all they do is eat. She has no children. If he dies, she'll be She'll be all alone. She's so afraid, I can see. And all I want to do is take her hand in mine and tell her she'll be all right. She'll never have to be alone, if she doesn't want to be.”

“- Is Is Emile still here?

-    Emile is in surgery. There's been some bleeding in his brain.

-    Oh, my God. Oh, God. He never said a word. For 15 years.

- Did you know? –

- Why do you think I kept going back there? But then I met Bob, and Emile never… I made a choice.

- But you kept going back.

- I did. Because Bob liked it. And I love Bob. It became our place. 

And, yes, he orders for me. Because he knows what I like. 

And it may seem like we have nothing left to talk about, 

but sometimes it's nice not to have to talk. Fifteen years ago, 

I made a choice. And I keep making it every day. 

That's what marriage is.”

Grey's Anatomy, S06E14.